Move on After A Breakup Successfully

Breaking up is associated with deep pain and heartbreaks. Most people find it difficult to move on after a break up. What makes it difficult to move on? Is revenge the best solution? How can you start a new life after a breakup?

Why is It So Hard to Move On?

You dated this person for a long time and, naturally, you had serious future plans together. But most importantly, you opened your heart and came to fall in love with this person. Even though you decided to break up, your deep emotions are still vested in this person. And moving on is not going to be easy, but it must be done because it is the only option left. Whenever you feel lonely, the fond memories of the nice times you spent together replay in your mind. Sometimes, you blame yourself for the breakup with the view that if you had done things differently, the story could be different by now. In short, if you share rich memories, moving on is not an easy undertaking.  It could be that your former lover - your ex - might have put you through real pain and you want to teach them a rough lesson by revenging! Would that be the best solution for your broken heart?

The Realities of Revenge

Revenge naturally brings immediate relief. But it is carried out with heavy emotions and deep heartache - especially if it precedes a breakup. Since it is done with the view to offend and the mind is also not in its right state, the consequences are always regrettable. Cases of revenge against former lovers have been reported with very sad stories around the globe. Some people have ended up maiming or killing such people with the view that the pain will go away thereafter. Others have also come up with nastier psychological ways of inflicting pain on their ex-lovers. Most of these acts of revenge have ended many in prison if not in deep trouble and lifelong regrets. Therefore, the best revenge you can take is leaving all matters in God's hands. Just put everything behind you at your own pace and move on without complicating your life. But, how best can you move on after a break up?

Start a new life after a breakup 

How can you start a new life after a breakup? You have to be realistic. As long as you loved that person, it is not going to be easy, and moving on after that breakup is not going to happen overnight. It will take some time. The following eight steps can help you to start a new life after a breakup:

1. Make up your mind: If you want to reconcile, make sure you are exactly on the same page with your ex. Otherwise, make up your mind to move on and stick by that. Avoid limping between two conflicting decisions
2. Stop feeding on negative thoughts: Don't spent too much time thinking about how deeply hurt you are and what a low life your partner was. Feed on thoughts that support your stance.
3. Keep away bad reminders: If your healing process has just begun, you don't need to keep tormenting your soul with items that keep reminding you about the relationship. Keep them out of sight. All gifts, pictures and others items.
4. Regular physical exercise: Regular exercise will not automatically help you to forget about the person you broke up with. But it will eventually give you the energy to move on and focus on other things.
5. Meditate about other people: Instead of being depressed, think about some of your friends and family members struggling with different challenges. Fill up your mind with awesome thoughts by meditating on how you can help them. Attach a positive and progressive view to your life
6. Broaden your social life: Apart from that former lover, you have close family members, best friends, and caring seniors around you. Find time to visit and socialize with such people who truly care about you.
7. Improve your reading culture: Reading is yet another activity that can help your mind to keep away from your former lover and the heartbreak or break up. You can go for literature that is exciting and especially the bible. In The Bible you will even read about people who went through serious betrayal. 
8. Talk to someone trustworthy: Talking has been proved to be a remedy even for people who are victims of suicide. But talk to someone trusted, a councilor, your best friend, or best of all pour your heart to God in prayer. The listener in most cases will not always give you the solution right there, but a hearing and caring ear.