How Can I Forget About My Ex Boyfriend?

He broke your heart so many times, but you forgave him because you still loved him. But his bad ways turned you into his slave, and you finally broke up. Despite this, you still love him and he is constantly on your mind. Will you ever get over him? How can you successfully forget about your ex?

Is it possible to forget about your ex?
If you have ever experienced a disease that leaves you weak, heartbroken, pained, anguished and annoyed but you don't need a doctor, then you have gone through the pain of a break up. when you talk to elders, it will become clear that some of them have gone through more traumatizing and dramatic break-ups than what you are facing. In fact, there are many people from different age-groups and back grounds who have successfully managed to forget about their ex-lovers. Therefore, if others have managed to endure this experience with their ex-lovers and moved on, you can do it too.  Forgetting about your ex-boyfriend can be quite difficult, but it is not impossible.

How can you forget about your ex boyfriend for good?
Firstly, you really need to be sure about what you want to do and indeed what is best for your future. Having thoroughly made sure that there is no tangible hope for the two of you, and all hopes are not showing any clues, you consider apply the following suggestions:



  1. Keep a clear distance: If you either live or work close to this person, let your interactions be limited to strictly business or as mere neighbors.
  2.  Leave the past behind you: In order to forget about someone, you need to put the memories of the past with him behind you. This is no time to start fantasizing about those awesome times you had, that time will come in the distant future.
  3. Focus on other pressing matters: If you start spending time, plotting how you are going to hit back on him or show him that you are better off without him, you will not easily forget about that person. 
  4. Keep away all reminders: If you have some of the photos that keep reminding you about this person, including gifts, this is time to keep them out of reach. The more you come closer to such, the more you drag yourself backwards. 
  5. Rely of loving family members: There are some family and friends who care about us and this the time to close to such and think about the challenges they may be facing. 
  6. Avoid any rebound relationships: This is very tricky because starting a new relationship while the other one is still psychologically active may end you in more trouble than you may already have. 
  7. Be happy and start anew: Be determined to be happy by accepting what you cant change, working hard to change what you can handle and smiling while you have people who deserve it around you. Never let any ex-boyfriend's memories rob you of such a privilege. 
  8. Bury the blame game: Forgetting about your ex may even become easier if you avoid blaming the other person. What happened is history and you can only learn from it. 
Should you punish him for what he did?
Most people think that the quickest way to forget about him is to punish him dearly for breaking your heart and for all the heartache he put you through. This can merely give you some instant relief. But in the long run, you might just end up bringing more trouble and unnecessary misery upon yourself. In fact, the time you spend thinking about the kind of punishment he deserves will also keep him even closer to your mind than ever. After all why should he live in your mind rent-free! Be determined to lead a new life free of his influence.


Comments

  1. AnonymousDecember 8, 2015 at 5:28 AM

    Dear Editor, my own problem is that we both like each other and we are both trying to curtail it. We can not do few things you stated in your post. We are family friends, co-workers in church and lives close to each other with no other friends around us. Hence, we can not delete each other contact from our contact list and we can not avoid each other. Please urgently tell us what to do. we both know its wrong, as a matter of fact, it look so strange and stupid to us yet we are battling with it seriously.I sated that we were going to try what you wrote yesterday. We did agree on it yesterday but it was another level of torture that seem to increase the urge to see each other. Indeed, the law brings the consciousness of sin. Pls we need more advice urgently.
    pls reply ASAP.

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  2. AnonymousDecember 10, 2015 at 4:55 AM

    Dear Editor,
    Thanks a lot. We will try again. Hmmm but it seems there is no other thing we can do than discipline in complying with the lay down rules, right?

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    1. Ernest MwabaDecember 11, 2015 at 2:23 AM

      Yes, that's right.
      The same rules will help you to quench that fire smoldering between the two of you instead of adding more fuel.

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