The Silent Treatment

The silent treatment is a mental torturing technique where your partner suddenly stops talking to you for some reason. You can’t find out because each time you speak, you are met with a silent response. 

What it actually does
 The silent treatment is a form of abuse which destroys the very stronghold of a relationship. While the offended partner may have so many things to say, the only way he finds it easy to express his anger, frustration and grievances is by keeping quite. This terribly hurts the other person who naturally remains clueless and guessing as to what might have gone wrong. It is never an effective solution to catching the attention of your partner. Instead of bringing you together, it actually separates you.

How to stop it?
Mostly, it comes because the partner has some background of using the silent treatment. Perhaps it was used on you when you were young. It grieved you, and you are sure that the other person is punished with that kind of grief. If you are annoyed about something, there is no guarantee that the other person will guess correctly what is troubling you. Speak up! Break the silence even in a small way. For the sake of the love, and respect you have for the other person, open up and share your emotions.

How to survive it
First, you need to accept that there is a problem that needs to be sorted out. The other person wants to win. And that is why such mistreatment has come your way. Here are some methods you can use to deal with it;

-        Make peace: Apologize for the mysterious mistake you made and free your conscience
-        Do not act along: Two wrongs never make a right. Freely talk to your partner even though they won’t respond back. But you will get your signs for some important things.
-        Involve third party assistance: Invite counselors or elderly family members your partner holds in high esteem. You are likely to break through if you involve such people.
-        Do not revenge: This is the very first reaction you need to avoid. Revenging when dealing with the silent treatment abuse would simply be adding more salt to a wounded relationship. Keep calm and use your maturity to let the period slide – never any easy task.

A warning before marriage
If you are dating someone who has this habit, think again before accepting any marriage or engagement proposal from such a person. Marrying such a person is not going to help them change the habit. In fact, it will worsen. If you agree to go into a lifelong relationship with such, just be sure to accept that weakness and train yourself to accommodate it.

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