Real Relationship Issues Today

First, it needs to be made very clear that dowry is not money paid in order for a woman to be sold from her parents to her husband. No! At the same time, it is not a financial transaction that is priced according to the value of the commodity on sale. Otherwise, if you think you paid K50,000,000 ($10,000) as dowry, sorry, that is not even enough to buy certain designs of cars! The amount paid as dowry, in whatever form, is a minute or negligible fraction of what the bride is worth. Therefore, the act  of paying dowry is a gesture of seeking authorization from the bride's parents to approve the marriage. Who should have a say in it? Traditions around the globe are diverse. But, basically, the paying of dowry or bride price signifies the start of a new family. Therefore, the people getting married should have a say, in one way or another, on the dowry. This makes the negotiating process easier, and convenient. You can do this by ensuring that yo...

  When you were dating she used to cling on you and hug you whenever you met. After you got married she even used to kiss you passionately. But now you can't remember the last time she kissed you. When you try to hug her, she shrugs you off. What is the problem? How can you normalize matters? Where have you gone wrong? Firstly, she can behave like that if there are serious problems between you. Do you always quarrel and fight? Or is there some issue that causes constant fights? The psychological aspect is very important as it also makes it easy for you to correct your matters. If the psychological part is not sorted out, then your very sight is going to be disgusting. But what if such issues are not there and she has even confessed? Women normally speak either by their actions or some words that might be indicative of what they are thinking. In fact the body language normally has the best message for you. Listen to her when she complains about you - esp...

Breaking up is associated with deep pain and heartbreaks. Most people find it difficult to move on after a break up. What makes it difficult to move on? Is revenge the best solution? How can you start a new life after a breakup? Why is It So Hard to Move On? You dated this person for a long time and, naturally, you had serious future plans together. But most importantly, you opened your heart and came to fall in love with this person. Even though you decided to break up, your deep emotions are still vested in this person. And moving on is not going to be easy, but it must be done because it is the only option left. Whenever you feel lonely, the fond memories of the nice times you spent together replay in your mind. Sometimes, you blame yourself for the breakup with the view that if you had done things differently, the story could be different by now. In short, if you share rich memories, moving on is not an easy undertaking.  It could be that your former lover - you...

 Rebound relationships start shortly after someone goes through a break up. The heartbroken one looks for a shoulder to cry on with the view of alleviating the pain. Mostly such relationships involve someone using another person for personal gain. Another Heartbreak in the Making  Rebound relationships can be compared to the use of a soothing mechanism like a block of ice when you are burnt or a bandage when you are injured. When the pain goes away, you have to throw away that bandage and move on. Similarly, such relationships come to an end when the heartbroken partner heals completely or has made steady progress in the healing process. In addition, the choice of a partner is not based on true love, it is based on the anguish of disappointment from the previous relationship. The mind attempts to prove that this person is still lovable and can do better than was portrayed by the previous heart breaker. In all this, you can notice that another heartbre...

You have met someone who is very hard working, mature, and perhaps with a lot of wealth and intelligence. The only problem is that you are not romantically attracted to this person. Even the fact that you get along well has merely left you regarding this person as a sibling friend. What role does romantic attraction play in a marriage? What would happen if you married this person? What if you are already married to such a person? The role played by romantic attraction  In any happy marriage, intimacy is enjoyed, and it needs to be there. But the intimacy that is found here is fueled by romantic feelings and the attraction that comes with it. In the end, a husband feels a special or unique attachment to his wife because of the attraction he has towards her and the same applies to the wife.  This intimacy is not shared among mere friends or relatives. A husband feels a special  or unique attachment to his wife  because of the attraction he has towar...

Friends can make us or break us. In fact they can be made in minutes but keeping them requires serious, and consistent effort. Sometimes, we go through problems because we chose wrong friends, and we ended up associating with bad groups. However, since not every good person can be your friend, then who makes a true friend?         Who makes a true friend? A true friend should be someone who knows you better than many other people and can easily stand up for you when times are rough. Such a person should have the following qualities: Should trust you reasonably: This person should know you enough to have a reasonable amount of trust in you. No fanaticism involved. An auxiliary consultant: A true friend should be a consultant in some situations. This person should provide genuine guidance when needed. A good listener: Sometimes this person should just listen as you pour your heart and express your feelings. This usually applies usually when the problem ...

During courtship, many couples forget to discuss fully the number of children they wish to have, and when such children should be born. This means that children are born either accidentally, or spontaneously. Perhaps that is the reason why even buying fitting gifts usually becomes a challenge for many parents. When do you need to discuss matters related to kids and why? The Ideal Number of Children During courtship, you need to discuss the ideal number of kids that fits your circumstances. No one will come and tell you to have one kid, or two kids unless it is enshrined in the laws of your state or the traditions and practices of your land. You do not need to wait until you get married to discussion this matter with your partner. Naturally you need to discuss the future of the kids and your best aspirations. Then, this will remind you about your responsibility of making sure that they get a decent life you can afford. If you notice too many...