Cheating in Relationships – What are the realities?

Cheating is a word that involves various actions that are aimed at deceiving your partner or keeping away the truth from them. Telling lies about your activities and certain information; or engaging in corrupt activities behind the back of your partner are all forms of cheating.

Why do Partners Cheat?

Cheating is not a habit that is developed in a day. It starts after a long mental training to accommodate lies. Some partners cheat with the view of saving the relationship or making it stronger. But in general the reasons behind cheating include the following;

i)          Acting to impress: It is expected that by telling lies, you are going to impress your partner especially that they will believe you to have what you do not have or to be who you are not.

ii)         A warped background: Some people have been brought up to believe that cheating for a certain gender is normal. So they see no wrong with it.

iii)        Punishing the mate: Some partners have decided to punish their mate for some perceived mistakes by cheating on them. They expect to make matters right this way.

iv)        Gross selfishness: Most of the cheating partners forget about the interests of the mate. They simply aim at satisfying their needs.

v)         Blind competition: Interestingly, there are some mates who think that when they cheat on their mate then, they will prove that they are more marketable and attractive than their spouse L

vi)        Group influence: negative influence from the people around us can easily fuel us into thinking that cheating is normal. Make sure the right people are around you as friends.

vii)       Neglected partners: research has proved that there are many partners who are pushed into cheating by their partners who neglect them.

The Nasty Side of Cheating

When you cheat on your partner, you sit on a time bomb that is likely to explode at a very wrong time. One of the commonest consequences of cheating is breaking a relationship or marriage. Depending on the way you have cheated, this can either be expedient or gradual. Once your relationship ends in this manner, you leave a record behind. A record of being a cheater! This record will have an effect on future relationships to the extent of even affecting them negatively.

Not all relationships and marriages end when a cheating mate is cornered. Therefore, if the relationship does not come to an end, there is a lack of trust that develops. In fact, the love you share is thrown into a shaking mode that can go on for some time if not handled properly. It can also cost your respect and dignity.

Why keep some information?

There are times when you may be compelled to keep a fact from your mate for good reasons. When you do this, make sure you have all the details right; and you have a way of coming to inform them. Otherwise, when they discover from a different source, you will create unnecessary strife. The longer you hold on to such secrets the more difficult it becomes to divulge, and the more complex your position becomes. Therefore out of love and respect for the love you have, use your discretion to do the right thing, make the right decision and avoid lies and cheating of all sorts.