We are Always fighting, why?
You have come to find that whenever you are with your spouse, there is always something you are quarreling about. Sometimes the quarrels are so intense that you go for some period without talking to each other. Or perhaps you have even come to find that all the efforts you make in trying to resolve your differences always end up adding more complications. Where have you gone wrong? What is the best way forward?
Where did you go wrong?
First, if you are always fighting, there has to be a series of serious issues that you have not sorted out. This is characteristic of relationships and marriages where partners have a habit of postponing finding solutions to problems. Most of them think that by ignoring or just waiting for a later date to sort out a problem, things will sort themselves out. Things never sort themselves out. After some time, a small misunderstanding finally matures into a serious problem. Think about having suspicions that your mate is cheating on you, and you have some leads which look like evidence. If you do not take this up with your mate to a conclusive end which is agreeable to the two of you, more serious confrontations are underway.
Another problem comes in when partners fail to render respect to each other. If there is no respect, then you can say almost anything whether harmful and insolent. In other cases, it could be that you are always looking for faults in your mate and your love remains in question. If you need to look for faults you will find a lot of them and you will naturally come to find a lot of them at the end of the day. This will naturally lead to to endless fights. Whatever the case, you have to sit down with your partner and see how you communicate. If you both want to talk at the same time, then you are naturally starting a fight.
What is the best way forward?
There is no perfect couple. We all have our shares of relationship troubles and marital confrontations. But these can be drastically reduced if there is smooth communication between partners. Instead of being too suspicious and ever ready to get offended, love your mate. Listen with both ears and avoid putting words in the mouth of your partner. Work together as a team to sort out your problems in love and trust. In fact, you can only succeed in all this if you work together as a team and avoid seeking to find faults. Spend your energy on the positives of your mate.
You need to be resolved to stop fighting for no valid reason. In fact, you need to humble yourself and avoid talking when your mate is talking. Even if you have been fighting for some time, make it your goal to institute the first step by listening more with love and humility.
Where did you go wrong?
First, if you are always fighting, there has to be a series of serious issues that you have not sorted out. This is characteristic of relationships and marriages where partners have a habit of postponing finding solutions to problems. Most of them think that by ignoring or just waiting for a later date to sort out a problem, things will sort themselves out. Things never sort themselves out. After some time, a small misunderstanding finally matures into a serious problem. Think about having suspicions that your mate is cheating on you, and you have some leads which look like evidence. If you do not take this up with your mate to a conclusive end which is agreeable to the two of you, more serious confrontations are underway.
Another problem comes in when partners fail to render respect to each other. If there is no respect, then you can say almost anything whether harmful and insolent. In other cases, it could be that you are always looking for faults in your mate and your love remains in question. If you need to look for faults you will find a lot of them and you will naturally come to find a lot of them at the end of the day. This will naturally lead to to endless fights. Whatever the case, you have to sit down with your partner and see how you communicate. If you both want to talk at the same time, then you are naturally starting a fight.
What is the best way forward?
There is no perfect couple. We all have our shares of relationship troubles and marital confrontations. But these can be drastically reduced if there is smooth communication between partners. Instead of being too suspicious and ever ready to get offended, love your mate. Listen with both ears and avoid putting words in the mouth of your partner. Work together as a team to sort out your problems in love and trust. In fact, you can only succeed in all this if you work together as a team and avoid seeking to find faults. Spend your energy on the positives of your mate.
You need to be resolved to stop fighting for no valid reason. In fact, you need to humble yourself and avoid talking when your mate is talking. Even if you have been fighting for some time, make it your goal to institute the first step by listening more with love and humility.
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