Do Rebound Relationships Work

Rebound relationships start shortly after someone goes through a break up. The heartbroken one looks for a shoulder to cry on with the view of alleviating the pain. Mostly such relationships involve someone using another person for personal gain.

Another Heartbreak in the Making 

Rebound relationships can be compared to the use of a soothing mechanism like a block of ice when you are burnt or a bandage when you are injured. When the pain goes away, you have to throw away that bandage and move on. Similarly, such relationships come to an end when the heartbroken partner heals completely or has made steady progress in the healing process. In addition, the choice of a partner is not based on true love, it is based on the anguish of disappointment from the previous relationship. The mind attempts to prove that this person is still lovable and can do better than was portrayed by the previous heart breaker. In all this, you can notice that another heartbreak is going to be experienced at the end of the healing process because the relationship has to end by that time - after all, the mission has been accomplished!

Trapped in Your Genuine Love

If you are a victim of a rebound relationship, you will portray genuine acts of love and affection such that by the time this person is ready to move on, they will find it difficult to end the relationship because you are just too kind, and they have no valid basis for ending the relationship. As a result, this person feels trapped in your love. The only option is to start mistreating you with the view of pushing you to end it. At this point, you can experience the most demeaning acts from this person. In the end, you will hate the individual you love so dearly. To save your dignity, you just have to jump out of that relationship and move one. It is never an easy thing to do. But it is the right thing to do once all the indicators are pointing in that direction. Therefore, that is the reason why a big percentage of rebound relationships never work. 

Why do Some Rebound Relationships work?  

The main reason is very simple: Those that work are based on true love. There are many people who have been married for years. But their union started from a rebound relationship. The most important quality that comes is that the two partners are motivated by love to act selflessly toward each other, and exercise  patience. In other words, the healing process of the one coming from a broken relationship becomes an opportunity to understand each other fully. Such relationships exist, but they are very few. The majority of rebound relationships fail because there is a lot of selfishness, and pretense involved.