How can you distinguish Love from infatuation?

Love and infatuation have one serious fact in common: They both come with real passion and serious fondness. The craving that the partners have for each other normally appears indistinguishable. The danger is that you may end making a serious decision with someone who is just infatuated by you and at some point reality will reveal that you are in a loveless relationship. But to be safe, you have to identify the unmistakable signs of infatuation.

Unmistakable signs of infatuation
To begin with, infatuation also has the same outward display of attachment as real love. But look out for the following sure signs or indicators:
   1.  Show and boastful: The person who is infatuated tries their best to show off extensively what they appreciate about you. Even the kind of introductions will show
   2.   Hates being on the spot: This partner will try by all means to avoid soul-searching and serious questions that will put them on the spot. In fact, questions about a concrete future of the relationship are avoided.
   3.   In the fast forward mode: A partner who does not truly love you will always attempt to rush things even with scanty or no information. As long as their goal is achieved.
   4.   Selfishness: You will hear by the kind of speech this person presents when it comes to issues regarding the relationship. The ‘I’ will be very prominent.
   5.   No longevity: Infatuation never stands the test of time. When the going gets tough, such relationships are easily broken in no time.

Look out for the Qualities of real love
Real love also has the kind of passion which is similar to infatuation. But you can identify it by the genuineness of the displays of affection both in public and in private. Its qualities are just the opposite of what is listed above for infatuation:
1.   Humility and maturity: In real love, the partners only boast when there is a cause for it. There is true humility and maturity in unique ways regardless of age.
2.    Loves being on the spot: The partners love providing deep details of their plans for the relationship. In fact, they usually don’t wait for their partners to ask before they can explain.
3.   Always in the patient mode: This partner has no reason or desire to rush anything. Things just move at a natural pace and there is no rush at all.
   4.   Selflessness: A person who truly loves you, tries to put your interests first in  their acts and speech without even realizing it. Sacrificing for the relationship is very easy.
   5.   Longevity is throughout this life: The partners are able to stand all the above qualities and display genuine love because true love has no time limit. It stands the test of time to the fullest.
You can confirm your suspicions by getting the two sides cleared. But you have to be patient so that you do not end up with misconceptions. 

Comments

  1. solomonAugust 12, 2013 at 3:32 AM

    you also need to check how you handle conflicts and how you communicate with each other. true love handles conflict constructively, not wanting to win or being right but to make the relationship move forward.

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    1. Ernest MwabaAugust 12, 2013 at 6:29 AM

      Spot on! Mr. Solomon.
      Thank you for your mature comment.

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